Do the words that come out of your mouth sound sincere? Are they free from deceit, hypocrisy or duplicity?
Are you able to say something to another person that comes across in a sincere tone?

I love sarcasm and I am the king of it in my house. I enjoy watching folks engage in sarcastic banter. One of my favorite shows always been Saturday Night Live. To watch what these actors do and how they engage in it has brought me endless laughs. I own every copy of Jack Handy’s Books “Deep Thoughts”. The cynical person inside of me identifies with this all to well.

I am attracted to folks who have these same traits and can go head to head with me in a battle of sarcasm. I can go for hours talking back and forth in the most sarcastic tones. It’s an easy and all to familiar place for me. I love to joke around and laugh; in fact its laughter is an absolute necessity for me daily. So most of the time wherever I am and whatever I am doing I am trying to liven things up and have some fun.

There is a down side to all of this. When I am talking at home with my wife or kids, when I am with friends, I sometimes have to pull back and rein it in. When I hear people ask me are you serious or are you joking around, I know that it’s time to stop. I always have something funny I want to say and sometimes my funny witticisms; have no place in the context of the conversation. I just need to stop, listen to what’s being said and respond with sincerity.

I find that sarcasm is all to common place in our society today. We make jokes about everything and say things sarcastically that if they were said otherwise would be hurtful or callous. Somehow saying something in a sarcastic or joking way means it’s acceptable to say it even if when it isn’t nice. In essence if I am feeling a certain way or thinking something I can say it sarcastically and it we more likely be received well then if I had just come out and said exactly what I thought. In a world where being PC is mandatory now days I can see why sarcasm is very common and appealing.

So in regards to men where does sincerity come into play? To be real and authentic I believe it means there is a time and place for joking around and sarcasm, but when you’re having a heart to heart discussion with your wife or kids, that is not the place for it. I believe you can cross the line with sarcasm to the point where people will think all you ever do is make sarcastic comments and they don’t feel comfortable ever talking about real life stuff with you. This can be damaging in relationships with not only your family but with friends and at work as well. Humor has a place, but there are times where it is just not called for.

Sincerity means being authentic and speaking in a manner that shows a genuine interest in what the other person has to say. Put yourself in the other person’s spot. If you were to take what was just shared with you and turn it around and offer it up as your own story, would you want someone making jokes about it, or would you want someone to be sincere in their response. I highly doubt that. I know that if I when I am sharing something really important with another person the last type of response I would want it a sarcastic remark. I would want them to respond with care and concern.

I believe as men, its time we stand up and show other men what it’s like to be sincere. To often we come across being less than sincere. Today is the day where we draw the line in the sand and step up to the plate and talk to others in a real and sincere manner.

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