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Some of you reading through this blog may have a question, a potentially dangerous question, one that could send you down a path that there may be no return from. What if I don’t struggle with the things that many men do? What if I don’t have issues with lust, or passivity, or a host of other things that plague men on this Earth? Even though you may not necessarily be asking yourself this right now, even if you do still struggle with these things, you do hope to get to the point one day where you are free from them, yes? So there it is, laid out for you. What happens when you conquer the big struggles in life? What if you never had to deal with some of them? Does that mean you are the perfect man? Certainly not, nor do I mean to suggest any such notion, but what does it mean? It means every man is different, which means we will all struggle with different things. There are certain things that men, in general, tend to be susceptible to, but that doesn’t mean we are all victims to those things. This also means that you may struggle with something that many other men do not. This is why it is important to have a realistic picture of your strengths and weaknesses. You need to know the things you will tend to fall into so that you can guard against those things on a daily basis.

In my life, I can honestly say that I don’t struggle with things like porn or passivity. My wife has taken notice that I don’t have these issues, with some surprise at first. However, I am nowhere near perfect and I struggle everyday with what my calling might be as I don’t feel like I’m there yet. That’s my burden, what’s your’s? It’s for you to evaluate, but you have to be honest, maybe even ask those close to you for their observations.

After that discussion on the weaknesses of men I will end with this story to illustrate one man’s quiet strength. A friend of mine recently went toe to toe with cancer. A lump on the side of his finger turned out to be a tumor which could have been a very aggressive type of cancer. It Count the Fingerswas decided that the best choice would be to remove the entire finger to reduce or, hopefully, eliminate the risk of the cancer spreading. Think about how your life would change if you were missing the middle finger of your left hand. It’s hard to fathom. However, his trademark upbeat attitude prevailed and even spread to those around him. He himself was bringing comfort to those who were there to comfort him. Even though he has issues to deal with in his life, just like the rest of us, his strength was there in a situation that desperately needed it.

As this is my first post on this blog, or any blog for a while at least, I have decided to keep it simple.  I do appreciate Chris’ post from earlier today because it goes right along with what I have here.  If you would like to see some background info on me, you can find it here.

A Manly Pastime

There are many activities and characteristics that are generally associated with men and manliness, most of which don’t have anything to do with being a man.  Things like sports, drinking beer, fixing things, being into fast cars, driving a truck, crying, hunting, providing for the family, not crying, taking out the trash, mowing the yard, and so on.  Some of these things apply to me, some do not, the point is that none of them matter.  I could tell you all kinds of ideas and philosophies about what it really means to be a man, many of which can be found on this website, and alot of it is true.

I will tell you a story that falls into my idea of what it means to be a man.  This afternoon I was looking at something online while my wife was catching up on some things she was behind on.  At one point she started to ask me to help her with something and then stopped.  I put my laptop down and helped her anyway.  As I was thinking of something to write in my first post it occurred to me, this is part of what it means to be a man, helping my wife with something, something very small, even though she didn’t really ask.  You’ll probably see some more in depth philosophy from me later, but I thought this simple thing spoke to the heart of the matter.