Looking back and looking forward

Posted: 2011 12 29 by Chris Goforth in Authentic Man, Biblical manhood, Challenge, Discipleship, Fatherhood, Hardcore Christian Men, manhood, masculine, masculinity, Ministry, Relationship

As 2011 winds down and we gear up for 2012.  How was your year?  Were you able to accomplish the goals you set for yourself?  What regrets are you holding onto?

Each year I take the last 2 weeks of December off and spend it with my wife and kids.  We spend the holidays together as a family.  I usually have a couple of books I read through and then spend the rest of the time reflecting back on the last year and making plans for the coming year.  I not one to make resolutions, but rather focus on making goals that are achievable.

I am the type of person that does a lot of self-reflection on a daily basis.  I constantly strive to be a better man and person in all areas of my life.  I am not one to settle for just letting things be, I look at all the relationships and activities I have as part of my life and spend time thinking how can I truly impact those areas.

For me this last year has been an exciting time, but one that has challenged me in relationships with other men.  After leaving the church, we had been part of this last year some of the people I was closest to, made the choice not to continue in a relationship with me and that hurt deeply.  Five guys that I have been closest to and maintained long-standing relationships moved away and this has left me with a void.  I have maintained some relationships with a handful of folks, but those real life, deep-rooted relationships are gone.

Thankfully, through social media I have been able to connect with a handful of guys that have filled those gaps.  It has not looked the way I though it would but I believe that God has used these connections to fill that void in my life.

One of my goals for this next year is to deepen and develop real life relationships with other men who live here in my city.  Even though I have on-line relationships and they are truly a blessing, I still need guys involved in my real life.  I continue to pray that God will bring the right men into my life and I will once again build deep, long-lasting relationships as I have had in the past.

My other goals include living out my faith in real ways that I have not done before.  Using my voice to speak the truth and allow it to impact the lives of those around me with no holds barred.  To live each day fully and have very few regrets.  To experience all that God wants me to, grow and develop as a man, husband and father.

I hope this time next year, I am able to look back and see areas of growth that I have not experience before.  I pray that God will develop my character and skills so that in all that I do, he will be glorified.

In what areas are you looking to change and grow in the coming year as a man of God?

  1. Jason Wert says:

    Honestly, I’m not looking for anything in 2012. A big lesson I learned in 2011 is that God is working, He has a plan and my plans usually aren’t anywhere on God’s radar. So I’m just seeking God in 2012…which I guess is a form of looking. 🙂

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