I recently had a reader ask me about Christian dating. It made me think. While I was Christian when I met and dated my wife, I wasn’t worried about what the Bible said about dating. I just wanted to get Laura to marry me. Many single men are this way, or worse, they only worry about how to get a girl into bed with them. The question of dating as Christians is one that most of us will face.

I’m going to start this discussion with a small bit about singleness and celibacy. Throughout scripture we find several references to staying single and celibate. The reason I say single and celibate is that in order to remain single, we must also remain celibate. This is a very difficult thing. Many Christians come to the Church after already having had sex. Many Christians stumble or fall in their walk. We all face this battle, and I’m no different than the rest of us. In Matthew 19:11-12, Jesus tells us this, “Not everyone can accept this statement, except those to whom it has been given. 19:12 For there are some eunuchs who were that way from birth,and some who were made eunuchs by others,and some who became eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this should accept it.” The reason I share this with you is that it tells us how to determine if we are supposed to remain single and celibate. Are you called to remain single? If you do not feel a calling to singleness, then you must consider what Christian dating entails. How are we as Christian men to find our future wife? I have a lot of thoughts on this, and I am researching more, but to start, I want to take a poll of you. Let us know your thoughts and we’ll continue this discussion soon.

Until the Whole World Knows,


  1. Erik Brewer says:

    I do not find dating to be a Biblical practice. In fact, dating is a very recent fad in the history of the world (at least what we consider dating in the 21st Cent, man and woman together for long periods of time, usually alone). Our church and ministry discourage dating. I took my wife on our first date the second night of our honeymoon. I know many who never “dated” and are happily married. God brought them together while serving the Lord in the ministry. When the time was right, the man proposed and they were married. I feel that this is the Biblical way of going about things. God brought Eve to Adam, Rebecca to Isaac, my wife to me, etc. I do not condemn those who “date” but I believe we should not be influenced by the world and dating in the 21st Century is a worldly creation. God will bring the people together at the right time and let them know that they are the ones for each other. The should not try and see if it will work out. If God orchestrated it, then it will work out (if you follow His plan)

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