From Milk …

Posted: 2011 06 03 by jmmllr in Discipleship
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This is my first real post.

And as I’m writing it, I’m sitting on the tarmac in Toronto, on my way to Chicago for my wife’s oldest friend’s wedding. It made me think about a scary statistic that I saw come out of this year’s national survey: that married couples are now in the minority in the US – and even moreso in Canada. I wanted to take this opportunity to encourage them for accepting the challenge of marriage, and congratulate them on their commitment of real agape love to each other.

I’ve wanted to blog about marriage for a long time: the theology, the wisdom, the fact that I see it as one of the opportunities in the next generation for Christians to distinguish ourselves from the rest of the world (assuming trends continue). But seeing as I’ve only been married for six months (give or take), I figure I’ve still got enough to learn that it might be wise to hold off on the marriage blog.

But I do want to talk about that stat. Here’s what I know: From an early age I very much wanted to get married. I was blessed to be raised by two parents who very obviously loved each other, and I wanted that. Turns out, I’m a minority. But that doesn’t it’s not true. Marriage starts with a thirst.

I think that’s part of the reason the Bible describes Christianity as a marriage as often as it does. Like marriage, following Christ starts with a thirst. Thirst is that deep down craving at the pit of our being that desires. It craves something more than what it gets. It craves refreshment.

Like marriage, discipleship starts with the craving to be more than we are today. It starts with thirst.

But guys like to camel it.

That's right. Camel is a verb now.

That's right. Camel is a verb now.

We want to go for as long as we can without acknowledging the fact that we’re thirsty. We want to be tough and self-sufficient.  So we deny that we’re thirsty and deny that we need anything more than two feet and a heartbeat.

To me, the decline of marriage and the decline of masculine Christianity are linked. It makes sense too since men are the ones’s who traditionally propose marriage. If men are content with status quo, why not?

John 4 tells a similar story. It’s about Jesus passing through Samaria when he meets a woman who we very quickly discover is terribly thirsty. She’s gone from husband to husband, looking for something to quench her thirst for meaning and purpose, and now she’s camped out by a watering hole in the heat of the noonday sun.

Jesus does what he does best, and offers to quench her thirst with the only water that can ever really satisfy anyone, but it’s her reaction that I think is significant. When she takes a sip of the Living Water she rushes out to tell everyone she knows about what has happened to her. That’s what Living Water does: it fills a person to overflowing and pours onto everyone around them. Living water satisfies our deepest thirst because it ushes in the Kingdom of God by bringing new seekers to the Well.

I started by saying that this was my first post, and so it seems as good a place as any to outline my vision for this blog: I want to see men who are thirsty – who admit that we’re not good as we are, and that we need something to quench our thirst.  I want to see the Kingdom of God rush in like a tidal wave and wash away every thing that isn’t supposed to be. I want to see men refuse a watering hole when there is a well available.

So if there was ever a time to say Bottoms up, this is it.

Cheers guys!


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