Do the words that come out of your mouth sound sincere? Are they free from deceit, hypocrisy or duplicity?
Are you able to say something to another person that comes across in a sincere tone?

Proverbs 18:21The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit

I love sarcasm and I am the King of it in my house. I watching engaging in it as well as watching others throw down. One of my favorite shows always been Saturday Night Live. To watch what these actors do and how they engage in it has brought me endless laughs. I own every copy of Jack Handy’s Books “Deep Thoughts”. The cynical person inside of me identifies with this all to well.

I tend to be attracted to folks who have these same traits and can go head to head with me in a battle of sarcasm. I can go for hours talking back and forth in the most sarcastic tones. It’s an easy and familiar place for me. I love to joke around and laugh; in fact laughter is an absolute necessity for me daily. Most anything I do I am throwing out something to trying to liven things up and have some fun.

There is a down side to all of this. At home with my wife or kids and even with friends, I have to pull back and rein it in. When I hear people ask me are you serious or are you joking around, I know it’s time to stop. I always have something funny I want to say and sometimes my funny witticisms; have no place in the context of the conversation. I just need to stop, listen to what’s being said and respond with sincerity.

I find sarcasm all too common place in our society today. We make jokes about everything and say things sarcastically that if they were said otherwise would be hurtful or callous. How many times have you seen or heard TWSS (that’s what she said).  Somehow saying something in a sarcastic or joking way means it’s acceptable to say it even if when it isn’t nice. If I am feeling a certain way or thinking something I can say it sarcastically and it will likely be received better than if I had just come out and said exactly what I thought. In a world where being PC is mandatory; I can understand why sarcasm is very common and appealing.

So in regards to men where does sincerity come into play? To be real and authentic I believe it means there is a time and place for joking around and sarcasm, however, when you’re having a heart to heart discussion with your wife or kids, this is not the place for it. I believe you can cross the line with sarcasm to the point where people will think all you ever do is make sarcastic comments and they don’t feel comfortable ever talking about real issues with you. This can be damaging in relationships Humor has a place, but there are times where it is just not called for.

Proverbs 13:3He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.

Sincerity means being authentic and speaking in a manner that shows a genuine interest in what the other person has to say. Put yourself in the other person’s spot. If you were to take what was just shared with you, turn it around and offer it up as your own story, would you want someone making jokes about it? Wouldn’t you want someone to be sincere in their response? My hope is your answer is yes. I know when I am sharing something really important with another person the last type of response I would want it a sarcastic remark. I would want them to respond with care and concern.

I believe as men, its time we stand up and show other men what it’s like to be sincere. Far too often we come across being less than sincere. Today is the day where we draw the line in the sand and step up to the plate and talk to others in a real and sincere manner.

Proverbs 21:23He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.

Do you tend to be sarcastic? Are you able to reign in the sarcasm?

  1. Gary Taylor says:

    Yikes. I hate it when someone sneaks a mirror on to a blog post. How COULD you? I thought we were friends.

    Speaking of mirrored images, when any of the six gets old enough and you visit the grandchildren and see him or her in sarcastic mode for both joking and discipline, you’ll get humble and repentant real quick, if too late. I speak from experience, dang it.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s